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Every guy thinks about meeting a girl for the first time.

For some reason, it never seems right to me that you want to know whether or not she’ll be attracted to you.

It’s like asking the teacher if your homework is done.

One of the main reasons men want to know if a girl likes them is so they can gauge how they should act.

Men want to know whether they’ll be able to pursue a girl.

If you’re hoping for a casual fling, you probably don’t want to get attached to her.

If you’re hoping to get into a relationship with her, you probably do want to get attached.

If a girl likes you for the first time, she probably finds you attractive

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You’ll know that she’s into you because she’ll probably try to make eye contact with you and kiss you.

If she kisses you and doesn’t get into your pants immediately, it’s because she’s into you and you’re a nice guy.

If she’s not into you, she’ll just try to play-make-out with you and then run away.

You can also know if a girl liked you the first time you met her by just looking at her.

Her body language will give you clues about how much she likes you and how confident she is in you liking her.

This also seems to be a popular mantra for you men: “If I really like a girl, I’ll give her a reason to like me.” Usually, this works, if the girl likes you, she wants to see more of you.

I know this line of thought can be tempting. After all, if you really like a girl, you won’t want her to have a guy that she might like better.

You’ll want to get her back to your place, which means you need to take her on a date.

But why do you need a reason? Why do you need to lead up to it? It doesn’t really have to be a big deal.

If you want to go out for dinner, why not just ask if she wants to go out for dinner and ask her out?

Or better yet, just show up at the restaurant.

What’s wrong with that?

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The next problem is that it makes you a total asshole. Here you are, man, asking a girl out.

Of course, you’re nervous. I’ve been there before.

You want to impress her. You want to make sure she likes you.

You want to see her smile and it’s harder than you think.

You don’t want to overstep your bounds. You don’t want to appear like a jerk.

But you also don’t want to ask her out and have her get angry. Do you think she likes you when she’s pissed off at you?

You can indeed lead up to it. You can call her up and ask her out.

Or, maybe you can even invite her to your house for dinner.

Or maybe you can go out and get her something at the store for dinner.

But there’s something to be said for making it clear that you’re inviting her out on a date.

It’s easier to convince her that you want to go out with her than to ask her at dinner.

It’s all a delicate dance, man. You don’t want to be presumptuous, but you also don’t want to seem like a jerk.

It’s a tricky balance.

Let me give you an example:

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One time, I was sitting at a restaurant and I noticed a beautiful woman with a table full of guys.

She looked to be in her mid-thirties. She had short black hair and a warm smile.

She was wearing a red t-shirt and black skinny jeans. I couldn’t help but look at her because she was very, very attractive.

I finally realized what she was doing: She was setting herself up to be set up.

Her guys were probably in relationships. They would have asked her out and she was setting up one of them to ask me out.

Of course, this isn’t the most effective method for getting a date. I didn’t approach her. But she set me up anyway.

When I asked her about her feelings on bisexuals, she didn’t seem bothered.

She was just friendly. She was pleasant. She wasn’t treating me like a perv or a creep.

I thought, “This is pretty cool. I don’t have to pretend to be interested in her when I know she’s actually attracted to me.

I don’t have to pretend to be cool when I know I’m not cool. I don’t have to get to know her, she already knows me.”

It took a few months to work up the courage to ask her out.

I had all the reasons for why I should ask her out on a date, but I couldn’t bring myself to do it.

One, I didn’t want to come off like a creep. Two, I knew she was looking for a guy to ask her out.

Three, I was nervous. But by the time I worked up the nerve to ask her out, she said no.

It wasn’t because of me. She just wasn’t interested.

She told me she was busy, that she wasn’t dating anyone at the moment, and that she was looking to find someone to date.

She wasn’t rude or mean. She wasn’t cold or dismissive.

She was just the opposite. She was giving me the best possible answer that she could.

She didn’t want a relationship, and she was being polite.

I was very happy that she was clear about her feelings. Not all women are.

I was just happy that she could be honest about them, and that I could be honest with her.