Many people that we work with are now approaching their mid-thirties and early forties.
They may have spent many years feeling confident but have now started to lose their confidence because they do not feel as motivated anymore.
They are taking fewer risks because they do not want to fail.
They are not making the most of their lives, and are not satisfied with what they are doing.
They feel anxious and worried because they feel that they have not achieved anything important, or something that they have always wanted to do.
They are worried that they will not be as successful as they want to be.
They are not focused on what is important to them. Their priorities have changed, and they are not willing to try new things because they are worried about the possible consequences.
They may also have low self-esteem because they compare themselves with people that they perceive as more successful and confident.
They may feel inadequate because they do not have money, power, or fame. They are stuck, and they have lost a lot of their life’s potential because of their low confidence.
Why do I have low self-esteem?
Many people have low self-esteem because they have low confidence.
Self-esteem is your sense of confidence and self-worth. It is what makes you feel good about yourself.
The higher your self-esteem, the more self-confident you feel.
Low self-esteem may be caused by many factors, including low self-confidence, low self-efficacy, low self-acceptance, low social confidence, fear of failure, fear of being vulnerable, and feelings of loneliness and isolation.
Low self-esteem is affected by many of the things that you do in your life:
Your weight:
If you are overweight, you have lower self-esteem because you feel that you are lazy and not as good as you could be.
If you are overweight, you have lower self-esteem because you feel that you are lazy and not as good as you could be.
Your appearance:
If you are dissatisfied with your appearance, you have lower self-esteem because you feel that you should have a better appearance than what you have.
Your social life:
If you are unhappy with your social life, you have lower self-esteem because you think that other people have a better social life than you.
Your physical appearance:
If you have no or limited self-esteem, you feel that you should look a certain way.
Your relationships:
If you do not feel confident in your relationships, you may have low self-esteem, because you fear that you will not be happy in a relationship.
Your work:
If you feel that you are not doing enough to contribute to society, you may have low self-esteem.
Your overall life:
If you are not happy with your life, and you do not feel that you are achieving much in your life, you have low self-esteem.
Many of these things can be changed by changing your attitude and changing your behavior.
If you change these things, you will gain more confidence and self-esteem.
How can I change my attitude and change my behavior?
1) Start small
For example, if you are afraid to take a new initiative because you are afraid that your boss will be critical of your work, you can start by volunteering to do more projects.
You may be surprised at how pleased your boss will be with your initiative, and you will gain confidence as a result.
2) Establish why you have low self-esteem
Did you do something that made someone else’s life easier? Did you do something that was not a priority for you?
Did you feel that you should have done something different to make the situation better?
Were you a victim of someone else’s behavior? Did someone you cared about, but who was not important to you, leave you?
Did you feel lonely or isolated? Were you not satisfied with your looks, social life, or body?
Having low self-esteem may be due to a combination of many different factors, so try to figure out what they are, and begin to change them.
3) Remind yourself of your accomplishments
You will get low self-esteem if you don’t feel like you have done enough in your life, so start using your life experiences to remind yourself of your achievements and your good qualities.
You could write down things like: “I have been responsible at work and this made the situation better for the people I worked with.
I have worked to help a colleague who was in need. I have taken care of my family and my household and this made them happy.
I have worked hard to be a good parent. I have been a good friend.”
You could also choose to make a list of these things and give yourself a ‘high five’ for each one, like this: “I have been responsible at work and this made the situation better for the people I worked with.
I have worked to help a colleague who was in need. I have worked hard to be a good parent. I have worked hard to be a good friend.”
This is called acknowledging your good qualities. It makes you feel good about yourself and gives you high self-esteem.
4) Take steps to improve your self-esteem
Write down some positive things about yourself, and talk to a friend about what your life is like and the things you have done in the past.
This may also help you feel more confident and improve your self-esteem.
5) Ask for help
If you don’t know who to talk to about your low self-esteem, speak to a friend about it.
You may be surprised at how much he or she will appreciate hearing about your situation.
You can also try to find a counselor who deals with low self-esteem issues.
The one I see myself is Dr. David Paul, and he specializes in helping people with low self-esteem.
If you don’t feel comfortable speaking to your friends, ask your co-workers and supervisors for advice.
