Confidence is the result of doing something well, as well as doing nothing.
Let’s define confidence and begin.
If we write down some factors of why we fail, we find many common ones which we fall in every other case.
These reasons involve our thinking, our emotions, and our outside world.
Let’s discuss each of these.
The lack of reading self-help books
Read the success stories of successful people, such as Brian Tracy, Tony Robbins, and many more.
Read them to know how they got the job done. Do you feel bad about being an average graduate with no relevant qualification?
I am sure you feel bad. Most of the job offers that come to you look like disasters.
You also wonder how will you make a life for yourself, if your plan is bad.
There are ways to work towards your goals.
This is not going to be a doer’s guide but a life guide that will help you get over the hurdles in life.
Start a business and use it to build your personality
Everybody wants to become a millionaire, but very few succeed.
The reason is that most people have no clue what it takes to be a millionaire.
So, by creating your own business, you can become a millionaire.
The reason why I say this is that when you create your own business, you can have all the skills you need to start the business in place.
You are likely to attract your target audience who has similar experiences, aspirations, goals, and morals.
This will lead you to build a better life, even if you are unable to become a millionaire.
Do not take advice from your unhappy friends
The term, friendship is often misunderstood. It is actually not a good idea to seek advice from people who complain and do not seem happy.
People who complain are indeed the ones who know how to find faults in almost every situation in life.
These people never have enough positive things to say. They always go for the negatives.
If you want to succeed, do not seek advice from people who do not have the kind of attitude you want to possess.
The reason why most people never succeed is that they are busy complaining.
As soon as they have the slightest problem, they blame it on the system or people around them.
When you are down, be positive and face the problems that you are facing. Don’t let negativity pull you down.
Don’t spend more than five minutes on social media
Most of us spend almost ten to twenty minutes on Facebook and Instagram every day.
It is better to spend less than five minutes on social media and devote your energy to things that really matter.
Have you ever realized that many people spend more time on social media than on reading books? Why do you think this is the case?
People like to get updates from people who post more updates.
People also tend to post on their accounts just for the sake of posting.
This is a waste of time and you are depriving yourself of positive experiences in life.
Facebook and Instagram are not your friends.
Apathy
If you are always angry, or sad, or frustrated, you won’t have the mental strength to do anything.
People who have mental health problems do not care what is happening around them.
They care only for themselves. This is not a positive attitude. They end up losing friends, family, and their job.
People like this are toxic.
When you are good and strong, you do not need to use depression as a crutch.
You need to be optimistic, full of positivity, and capable of achieving your goals.
Look at your daily life and realize that it is different from the film
Most of the time, when you are stuck in a problem or a situation, you are more interested in finding a solution than actually appreciating what you have.
Remember the situation that triggered your crisis? Now, think about the situation in a positive way.
You have just experienced a minor setback and it is not a big deal.
You could use this as an opportunity to make improvements and move forward.
Your life has no predetermined design. As long as you have the willingness to explore, you will be surprised at what you will find out.
Be great at the things you love
This is the most important one. Do not be successful at something that you are not passionate about.
If you are pursuing your dream job, do it for the sake of your passion, not because of the money.
A lot of people pursue money for the sake of making a lot of money. But that is not the right way to approach your life.
If you are a child, you need to be into something you truly love. If you are not passionate about something, you will never be good at it.
Your passion will eventually be misdirected.
Do not let your passion be corrupted by money. You need to be great at the things you love. The money will come.
Do not hate your parents
Most of us have a relationship with our parents where we blame them for a lot of our problems.
However, parents are people too. And, they are perfect in their own way.
If you blame them for something that they did, you are not being a good son.
You need to understand that our parents raised us the best that they could. And, in return, they are doing the best that they can.
Being a parent is not easy and it’s not a child’s job to have a relationship with his or her parents.
