Your home is your temple.
It is in your home that the highest form of trust in a relationship can take place.
It is in your home where you learn to compromise. It is in your home where you create the first and only foundation of your family.
According to Suzy Welch, author of The Complete Idiot’s Guide to Polyamory, “A happy relationship is in no way a magic formula and in no way an achievement for which you must reach a certain stage.
For good relationships to evolve, you have to build them, and the process of building them is unique for each couple.”
What makes a happy marriage?
People talk about love, but if you don’t have love at home, then what is the use of all the jewelry and gifts in the world?
When a couple gets married, they have lots of expectations about their marriage.
Every new-married couple wants their spouse to meet their expectations.
They have expectations that are too high and unrealistic.
It is not that you cannot meet some of your spouse’s expectations, but it is always better if you start with the ‘self-growth of yourself first.
Here are 5 tips that may help you achieve a happy marriage:
1. Do not compare your spouse with others
The kind of expectations that are to be met is that of your own.
If you compare your spouse with others, it is difficult to have love in your marriage.
But the problem is that you may not know if your spouse is capable of meeting your expectations.
It is always better to be content with your spouse instead of expecting a lot from them.
2. Listen to each other’s stories
Always listen to each other’s stories. Listen to your spouse’s point of view.
If you are talking to someone, stop and ask yourself “Is my spouse listening to my story?
If yes, then what should I be telling? If no, then let me continue”
This can help you with understanding each other better.
3. Speak openly and honestly
Speak openly and honestly. Do not be scared to express your feelings, emotions, and feelings.
Talking openly and honestly can be hard sometimes.
But if you are comfortable with your spouse, it can help you immensely.
You may feel hurt at times, but if you talk about it openly, you are more likely to move past it.
4. Encourage each other
Encouraging each other helps you in your marriage.
When you expect from your spouse, it can be overwhelming.
But if you encourage your spouse, it is easier to overcome those hurdles.
Being willing to help your spouse gives them a sense of belonging in your home.
5. Create a family atmosphere
Create an atmosphere of love and trust in your home.
You do not have to reach a certain level of emotional maturity to be able to create a happy home.
Create a happy home by committing to your spouse, striving to be the best, respecting each other, and supporting each other.
This will help you in creating a happy home where you are comfortable and happy.
Other 5 tips:
1. Procreate together
Procreation is not something people should take lightly.
It is an act of love and a love that should not be taken lightly.
Your partner is always going to want a child or at least a child-like interaction with you.
This shouldn’t put pressure on you to get pregnant right now but instead should be a reflection of how you feel about each other.
2. Always respect each other
To be truly happy in a relationship, there should be mutual respect and a willingness to accommodate each other.
For example, when one partner is especially stressed and needs an outlet, it is best not to take it out on their partner, and instead try to talk it out and get it out of their system.
A happy couple should be able to make a compromise on one’s perspective to accommodate the other’s needs.
3. Share your emotions
The secret to a happy relationship is to let go of emotional baggage.
If you cannot come to a compromise with your partner when one of you needs space, you should not do that to the other.
Remember that your relationship is important, and the foundation of a happy life should be trust, understanding, and mutuality.
A happy couple should be able to tolerate their partner’s moods, know when to step back and when to support, and keep the peace, and even work through their problems together.
4. Understand what each other really wants
Understanding what your partner really wants in a situation is very important.
Just because you wanted something last time doesn’t mean it is going to work the same way this time around.
Being able to accept the things that your partner wants makes for a happier relationship.
5. Set realistic goals
Set small but important goals for your relationship, such as going for a walk together or taking the time to engage with each other.
If you can make small steps toward a goal and achieve them together, you are bound to feel more satisfied in your relationship.