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Yes, you can tell her no after the first date but make sure you do it right and learn from it.

You never know if you will have another date with her.

If you notice yourself liking her so much after the first date then you have to use the age-old ‘leaving it too long’ strategy.

A lot of guys do not have a clue on how to approach girls.

So when the girl rejects them, they come up with lame excuses like “I didn’t know the girl well enough to tell her no” or “I didn’t want her to think I was selfish” or “I didn’t know how to tell her no”.

Well, guys, the truth is that you do not need a heads up when a girl says no to you.

The ball is in your court

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You can never tell a girl she is beautiful without her approval.

If she tells you she doesn’t like you you don’t need a heads up. She would never want you. It is just that you have started dating.

Do you remember the first date where you had an overwhelming feeling that you just wanted to date her?

Your heart was telling you that this is the girl you were supposed to marry.

You could not stand the thought of dating a girl after she says no to you.

You were totally confused. How could she reject you?

You are not asking for advice but are hoping to give a basic heads up to guys out there.

So here are the best guidelines on how to handle rejection after the first date.

Does this girl see you as a date or friend?

Remember when you asked the girl if you can see yourself dating each other.

If the girl is not seeing you as a date but as a friend, I would suggest that you do not spend time with her anymore.

I’m not saying you should dump her but go out with the guys you know.

Also, don’t waste your time with girls who do not see you as a date.

You might get to spend time with her again if she ends up seeing you as a date and you will be glad that you did.

If the girl is seeing you as a date, there is no need to worry. You don’t need to worry if she has you on some loose terms.


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Because she wants you as her boyfriend or husband. You should know by now, that as soon as a girl agrees to date you, you automatically become the boyfriend.

When you and a girl agree to date each other, you are agreeing to be with her for life. What’s wrong with that?

If you have started dating a girl who sees you as a friend then it’s high time you dump her.

No girl will give you the time of day if she does not want to be with you.

What if she tries to be with you, you don’t care. You might be fooled into thinking that if you both have started dating, then it’s okay.

But no. When a girl starts dating a guy she has never dated before, it’s not a date. It’s a date.

She has not seen the guy before. She has not seen his background.

She has not seen his personality. All she knows is that he is cute, charming, and has a good job.

How can she know if this guy is husband material on a few dates?

She is not likely to see the problems in the future or think of him as the future husband.

What you need to do if a girl is seeing you as a friend is to keep your distance. Don’t kiss her, hug her or give her those feelings.

You do not have to spend time with her outside of the date.

You should be feeling the same way. You are not in love with her. You are seeing her play around. That’s it.

You are not getting anything else out of the relationship but experience.

If you want to get a real girlfriend you must have a real relationship with her first.

What if she says yes to you?

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If the girl says yes, it’s a date. You are now looking for the girl of your dreams.

Don’t worry. It’s like dating any other girl.

This girl is going to get bored of you very soon. You are not that man that a girl can rely on for her life.

One-third of all the guys you date are not the man you will marry.

It happens all the time. You get the perfect girl and then after dating for a while, you are the man she calls after you have split up.

This girl is not going to be the woman you are going to marry.

You get the girl of your dreams but you forget that you are still looking for the real thing.

If you do not get married in a year or two, then you will start questioning yourself.