If you’re totally against them, you can find someone who loves you, as much as you love them.
You can be with them whenever you want and just remember that it’s about you, not them.
They’re not dating a guy you hate, so stop going on the internet to hate on them and start living your best life.
Take a step back and look at yourself in the mirror.
The only people who know your flaws, and what you need to work on, are you and the person you’re with.
Once you do that, then you can stop being jealous of their relationship. It’s not healthy.
I want you to be happy, and if you’re not, let me know. I’ll help you out.
1. Live your best life
Whenever I’m with you, I want you to see me as a positive force in your life.
I want you to see that I’m supportive and I care about you. That’s the person I want you to know I am.
Love is about accepting people as they are. That means accepting everyone for the person they are, even if that’s not what you want for them.
If you think something is off, that means it’s. If you see them unhappy, that means it’s.
In that case, they need to deal with it themselves. No matter what anyone tells you, they’re entitled to their life.
If they want to be with someone else, that’s up to them. You can’t control other people’s lives.
2. Focus on yourself
Let me tell you a story. It was my sister’s 21st birthday and she went to Cabo with a bunch of her friends.
One day, they all decided to go out on a bender, get wasted, and walk the streets looking for tequila shots.
I get it, it was her birthday, so they were going to have fun, but it wasn’t how I had hoped it would turn out.
They came home around 5 a.m. The next day, her friends texted her, asking how her night was.
I wanted to scream. I told her to do her own thing and have fun, but she didn’t listen.
When they asked her how her night was, she immediately told them that it sucked and she wasn’t having fun.
Her friends didn’t try to convince her to change her mind or offer her any suggestions of how to have fun, but I did.
I convinced her to go out the next night with me, my friends, and my brother.
We spent all day at the beach, went back to my house, and ate cheese balls for lunch.
I also reminded her that she doesn’t have to be drunk to have fun.
“If I have fun drinking wine out of a glass, it doesn’t mean that you have to drink wine in the pouring rain.
You can be a good person and be fun, just like me. I want you to have fun and be happy and in a relationship, but not if you’re miserable in that relationship.
If I’m happy in a relationship, I want you to be happy too, but if I don’t like what you’re doing, that’s up to you.”
Your happiness is your responsibility.
3. Stop paying attention to the negative
I know you want to be happy, but sometimes it’s hard. It’s hard to be happy when you’re so preoccupied with the fact that other people’s lives seem to be perfect, while your own is a mess.
This is where you have to cut the negativity out. You have to learn to appreciate your own life, even if it’s not as good as others.
People only care about other people’s relationships because they’re worried about their own.
They’re not asking the question, “How do I maintain a healthy, happy relationship when my relationship is making me miserable?”
They’re asking, “How can I make sure that I stay single for the rest of my life?”
I can tell you with 100% certainty that that’s not what they want.
Stop giving your energy to other people’s relationships and what they’re doing.
Just focus on your own. You’re a unique, incredible, special person. And you deserve the absolute best.
4. Take care of yourself
This one is important. No one can fix you. No one can make you happy.
You have to do that. You have to take care of yourself.
I know you think that everything is bad when you’re unhappy, but that’s not true. You have to recognize that it’s just your brain and body that’s hurting, not your relationships.
Don’t try to force a relationship or self-love. Allow yourself to be unhappy, cry, feel bad about the things you don’t like, and do whatever you need to do to feel better.
And remember that as much as you want to be happy, it’s impossible to be happy when you’re miserable.
5. Acknowledge your own wrongs
Sometimes we have to accept that what’s happening isn’t okay. For instance, if you’re jealous of your friend’s relationship.
You think she’s only dating this guy because you’re not good enough for her, then it’s time to do some self-evaluation.
When you spend all your time and energy on something that isn’t really harming you, it will never be good.
Try to be happy for your friend if they’re happy and if you really want to try and be happy for your friend, then try to forgive yourself and move on.
Now that you know how to quell your jealousy, go out and celebrate your friend’s relationship because it’s actually worth celebrating.
