The main reason why children have a low confidence level is that parents can’t communicate with them.

They have a great desire to help the child understand and do things but they usually find themselves confused when dealing with children because they don’t understand how to be helpful.

While they can point and teach their kids a few things, sometimes they don’t really understand what’s going on with their children and therefore they fail to make a connection with the child.

Their main problem is that their kids don’t want to do the things they want them to do or cooperate with them.

Since they don’t get the communication, they don’t understand their need for it and therefore their kids don’t get it and comply with what they want.

How do we teach a child to become confident?

father cares about daughter. /Photographer Marcel Melus

It is really difficult to teach a child to be confident. This is because it is a process of uncovering their true selves.

It starts from the role modeling of what it means to be a boy or a girl.

The ability to be confident is when children have good self-esteem and we can demonstrate this by doing little things like

  • Encouraging them to try something new,
  • being proud of the things they do,
  • not comparing with others or making themselves feel small,
  • starting small to be sure that they are not too proud to start with.

Set the stage for confidence to develop. A child’s confidence will develop if you get in touch with him/her and let him/her know what you expect.

These include:

  • Being proud of their accomplishments,
  • telling them they are smart,
  • showing pride when they master a new skill,
  • telling them how they feel about themselves,
  • telling them what’s going on in their lives,
  • being grateful for them.

If you get in touch with a child, you can get a real sense of the person within.

The strength of the relationship develops when you and your child decide to work together to build self-confidence.

This requires attention to what is going on in your child’s life and your own.

Understanding the child’s abilities can help you do this. Keep in mind, your child is not a chore, but as an individual with his or her own needs and wants.

This calls for being considerate to their needs. Remember, your child is the most precious thing you will ever have.

Become emotional & motivated

woman and a baby sitting on the ground

At the beginning of every single thing, you need to remember to create a great connection with your child.

When you are on the right page and want your kid to be on the right page, start by praising and valuing what your child has done in the past.

If you praise and say “good job”, your kid will start to understand how amazing that is.

Since they feel loved and want to do it even more.

If you are being sincere, your child will love doing things for you, and because of that, they will feel and love to do more for you and that’s what will make them happy.

Focus on your kids’ interests

You can encourage your kid to do what he or she likes doing, by giving your kid an interesting and exciting activity.

If your kid likes doing something, teach them how to do it better or make them an expert in that particular field.

Make them feel like a little genius and go that extra mile in their own interests.

They will be so much more motivated to do the things you want and when they do it, you will be able to tell that they really love to do that.

Give your child an easy task

When you give your kid an easy and not complicated task, it will make them feel important and appreciate their effort.

When your child is doing something difficult and you tell them to do it most easily, they will get discouraged and give up.

Therefore, try and be as flexible as you can, when giving them a task to do.

If your child is more interested in doing something with or for you, do not hesitate to ask them to do something for you as well.

Encourage kids to follow parents’ directions

I was at an event in Milpitas, CA celebrating the Indian festival of Colors - Holi. This is the time when adults become children again. They splash colors, dance freely and forget themselves for a while. This photo makes me realize no matter how old we get, the child within us is always present. We try to subdue it under social pressure and miss that freeness and innocence we once had.

Make sure that you give your kids clear instructions on how to do the task, if they have a question, they can always ask you to help them.

The more you communicate with them, the more they will understand the concept, and the better they will be able to do the task on their own.

This will also make them feel like they are an important part of the whole thing.

However, you should still guide them and tell them the right thing to do and what they should do, so they will be able to do it on their own.

If you are struggling with completing the task, it’s ok, you can ask them to help you.

Also, if they need to do it on their own, ask them to practice it first and let them know what you are asking them to do, for them to know exactly what you mean.