The answer is to seek out the critical person in the room, take some time to listen, ask about their journey, and learn from their experience.
The key here is to have an open heart, look for the spark that makes their success story unique, and then point the individual in the direction of what he or she wants to do next.
To build confidence, you have to build a relationship with someone. You need to talk about ideas.
You need to have conversations. The conversation with the critical person in the room is critical because it creates an environment in which ideas can be expressed.
To turn the conversation from a conflict zone to a place where ideas can be shared, start by expressing the uniqueness of what the critical person brings to the conversation.
When he or she makes a decision or points you toward something, acknowledge it. Keep the focus on the uniqueness of that person’s experience.
I know it can be tempting to jump in and “put your two cents in,” but the opportunity for conflict may be over before it has even begun.
Once the conversation has turned toward ideas, have a dialogue about the ideas the critical person is sharing with you.
The goal is to connect, understand and communicate with the critical person, not necessarily to argue with him or her.
So, how do you do this?

It has been demonstrated repeatedly that self-confidence increases the rate of success at any task or career.
Whether it’s in entrepreneurship, your job, or work at a for-profit or non-profit organization, building confidence is a key component of getting the job done.
Starting with confidence from the start will set your team up for success and set your business up for success.
And it doesn’t have to be a scary or difficult process. With a little effort, anyone can build confidence.
But, what does it take to build confidence? There are three things to consider:
Motivation
It’s not easy being successful or being successful at anything.
There are very few people that can say they’ve reached the top of the world, and some of those people are doing things most of us couldn’t even imagine doing.
The first step in any confidence-building process is understanding the fundamental need for it.
Everyone needs personal motivation. We all want to succeed, but to succeed at anything in life, we need to be prepared to fail.
And the best way to prepare is to gain some confidence in our abilities first.
It doesn’t happen overnight, but building some level of confidence can help us see the world with clearer eyes so that we can act with confidence and avoid doing things that would put us in an unfavorable position.
Trust
Confidence in the office, on the street, and in most other settings is greatly affected by being able to trust others.
Building confidence in others will help you increase the chances of being able to build confidence in yourself.
It’s the foundation for trust, and without it, you can never expect to receive the level of trust needed to build something truly great.
If you want to make a good impression on someone, it’s first and foremost about building trust in yourself. It all begins with being a good person.
Once you gain some level of trust in others, you can be less and less concerned with what they think about you, and you can simply be a person who wants to help others in any way that you can.
In our current, highly technological world, building trust with a human is often an arduous process, but it’s a crucial first step in earning the right to build real confidence with other people.
Belief
There are many ways to build confidence in others, but if you can’t trust your own beliefs and opinions, you can’t be confident in others.
When we want something we’ve never had before, we often start feeling a certain way. And many times, we act in ways that are outside of our own beliefs.
To build confidence, you must feel confident in your own beliefs and opinions.
Your beliefs must be solidly based on reality, and your beliefs must be fully understood and supported by every decision you make.
When we become confident in our own beliefs, we can become more and more confident in other people’s beliefs.
We’ll become able to respond with more understanding when someone shares their beliefs with us, and we’ll be more willing to share our beliefs when someone shares theirs with us.
If you have a set of beliefs, it’s up to you to believe them with full conviction, and you must do so before you can truly be confident in anyone else.
Let me help you to show your team you are prepared to do a job and to improve the quality of the job you’re doing. No more excuses.
I can help you to feel more confident, and I can help you to build confidence in other people.
We can do it together.