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The school system is going through a lot of change.

The digital age is leading to massive disruption within the field of education.

We will explain how parents can assist their children to grow in their self-esteem and belief in their future.

Educating a child starts early before they even start to learn to speak.

As a parent, you can start instilling in your children, from a young age, skills, and attitudes that will build their self-confidence and self-esteem.

Here are some tips for parents to encourage confidence in their children.

Stay calm

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Your child may not understand you right now. If you’re overly anxious or too forceful in your speech, your child will negatively react to you.

Being self-confident and knowing that you have every right to speak your mind is crucial.

As a parent, it’s important to show your child that you have confidence in yourself and are comfortable doing what you are doing.

If you are worried about saying something the wrong way, try to stay calm and breathe.

Your child will notice your calmness and be able to take note of your confidence and self-esteem.

Model this behavior

Some parents may think that modeling is the ultimate example, but it is not.

For example, you can model and matter-of-factly state your expectations and demands, but you will have little impact if your child doesn’t listen to you.

You can also model the behaviors you want to see from your child.

By observing yourself speaking clearly and not interrupting others, your child will start to mirror this behavior.

And, when your child does, they will be following your example and believing that they are capable of doing the same thing.

Don’t set too many expectations

Once your child is confident enough in their ability to communicate, be careful of setting too many expectations.

At some point, your child will start to feel overwhelmed when attempting to perform a task you require of them.

It’s also important to recognize that not every task will be easy.

Before challenging your child, try to assess their ability. Understand where they are on the ability scale and adjust your expectations accordingly.

Manage risks with caution

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Raising your child to manage risks is a great way to build their confidence in themselves.

By learning how to take control of their situation and demonstrate that they can accomplish their goal, your child will grow in confidence.

Besides, they will see you as a role model who possesses the traits of confidence.

It is important to not over-expose your child to danger, as they need to understand that there are sometimes dangers in life, even if they can’t see them at the time.

Teach them about confidence

Your child must have self-confidence. You can begin by teaching them about the different definitions of confidence.

Tell them that they have self-confidence when they know they can accomplish a task or job and when they feel secure in themselves.

Tell them that they have self-confidence when they know that they are capable and worthy.

Have an open conversation with your child regarding the meaning of no

Provide your child with language to explain what “no” is.

For example, you could say: “No means no. No means stop. No means stop talking. No means stop doing this. No means stop. No means you can’t do that.”

Be clear, yet consistent. If you say “no” one day, it does not mean that you’ll never let your child do something you would not have permitted previously.

Rather, the word “no” means no all of the time.

Teach your child how to say “yes.” Practice this with your child daily. Eventually, they will say “yes” without prompting from you.

Recognize that there is a big difference between being assertive and bossy.

Teach your child how to make a decision when they want to do something and be polite about it.

Help your child develop problem-solving skills by asking them to think out loud.

Then help them explore a solution and be confident that they will reach a sensible conclusion.

Be consistent in enforcing rules

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Show your child that you mean what you say and that it is not okay to ignore a rule.

Let your child know that you are always there to talk to.

When your child is having a meltdown, allow them to feel safe and to get everything out without judgment.

Give your child choices, and give them reasons for saying “yes” or “no.”

When you think about it, children can make choices, make their own decisions, and have confidence in them.

It is normal to be curious, and your child can ask, “May I have a cookie?” and make a decision that is in their best interest.

However, there are other things you can teach your child to help instill self-confidence.

When you discuss body image with your child, discuss how beautiful they are and how they don’t need to compare themselves to other children.

Help your child to know that everyone has different body types, and that is okay. Allow them to feel confident in their own skin.

Encourage your child to say “I’m sorry” when they do something wrong, and that you will not stop loving them if they say something they are sorry for.


With a little effort, you can raise a confident child who feels comfortable and confident in themselves.

At the same time, you can teach your child that a child’s worth is not determined by the same things as an adult’s.

By teaching your child to speak clearly, stand up for themselves, and learn how to communicate with others, they will grow in confidence and become happy individuals.