Relationships are not a zero-sum game. You don’t have to sacrifice love, intimacy, and affection for feelings of security or stability.
While some partners may demand your attention and affection all the time, others may have to earn their love and affection.
Learning to identify these needs and balance them out within the context of a relationship will not be easy.
But, by learning to shift your attitude toward relationships, you will find that it is far more rewarding, healthy, and satisfying than being bound to unhealthy patterns of codependency.
If you want to increase your relationship odds, read on.
The dating landscape has changed a lot in the last 10 years. From OkCupid to Tinder, there are so many dating apps and websites to choose from.
Finding someone special doesn’t happen the way it used to.
This means you are going to have to start over again in your mind about dating.
It’s not going to be easy, but once you adapt your mindset, it will be worth it.
Why should you change your mindset about dating?
You can’t expect to find a great relationship in just a few minutes. So why not make the most of the time you do have?
Studies have shown that men are more likely to commit than women.
That means men are a little more likely to be comfortable starting a relationship. They are also more likely to commit.
Women are more likely to commit when they know a man has given them his commitment and is going to stick with them.
There’s a big difference between knowing a man is going to commit and actually doing it.
Once a woman starts a relationship, she believes the relationship is going to last.
Then, when the relationship is starting to go sour, she starts to question what happened.
You can’t expect someone to commit if they have so many doubts.
Your mindset affects your ability to commit to something and being realistic means you are more likely to want to commit to someone.
You need to be open-minded. By being open-minded, you will look for the best version of yourself in a partner.
Changing your mindset about relationships
If you’ve always been single, you need to try dating a bit. It will get you out of your comfort zone, and that’s a good thing.
I’ll say this, though: If you want to date a rich guy, you might have a tougher time doing that.
In that case, the guy might think he can do better and you may not get the commitment you want.
If you really want to date, go ahead and take the plunge. Remember, it’s just dating. This is just the beginning.
If you’re in a relationship, you must maintain your mindset and keep up with the person.
In my last article, I wrote about how you should set your standards, and you should do the same with your partner.
Respect is important, and if you respect your partner, you will be a good partner.
It’s about having high standards for yourself, and not needing to compare yourself to anyone else.
You need to do your own thing. If you want to date, do it.
If you want to be in a relationship, do it. Your happiness should come first.
People change, people evolve, and as we learn and grow, we gain new perspectives.
Once you start dating, and you’re with someone for a while, you will start to gain new perspectives and broaden your understanding of the world.
How to change your mindset about relationships
You will have to adapt your mindset if you want to keep a relationship. The better fit you make, the better the relationship will be.
You won’t be able to change your whole mindset but just make some small adjustments.
It may be as easy as reminding yourself that if you’re going to change a relationship, make sure you do it for the right reasons.
You shouldn’t be with someone just to change your lifestyle. You should be with someone because you want to grow with them.
Having your own perspective is something that will help your relationship immensely.
Letting go of other people’s opinions is sometimes hard, but it’s necessary.
You need to hold on to your own beliefs. You can’t force your partner to see things the way you do. In the end, you’re the only one who knows yourself best.
You shouldn’t have someone changing your perspective. If they do, then you probably need to break up with them.
If you are having trouble with your girlfriend’s boyfriend, try to think like a man. It won’t take much of an adjustment to do so, and it will make you a better boyfriend.
It’s really not about changing your relationship, it’s about changing your perspective.
If your boyfriend is being disrespectful, do something about it. Set up boundaries with him. Stand your ground and stick to what you want.
You should take the responsibility for your own life. You are not responsible for someone else’s decisions or actions.
When you put your needs first, you can work with anyone, regardless of gender.
