Most relationships will have some form of argument, and to be mature in your arguments, there are certain things you must do.
First, you must be mature enough to realize that arguments are normal, and if you don’t have a problem with an argument in the relationship, you must be mature enough to simply let the arguments slide.
Secondly, to be mature in an argument, you must understand that the way you say things and your tone of voice is just as important as the actual arguments.
There are several phrases that you must never say to your significant other to ruin the argument.
Let’s look at a few examples
You must never call your partner a ‘whore’ or a ‘bitch’ in front of your friends or family.
Yes, it is fine to say these things to other people, but not to your partner.
Here’s what else you must never say to your partner:
- You Are A Fat Arsehole
- You Are Ugly/Hairy Asshole
- You’re A Pain In The Ass
- I Hate You
- Stop Being So Shy/Shy, Boy
- Don’t Talk About My Father/Mother/Husband/Wife
- Why Don’t You Do Something About That Girlfriend/Wife?
- I Don’t Like You
- I Don’t Wanna Talk To You Again
- I’m Getting A Job
- I Don’t Want To See You
- Take My Son
This is just a small list of all the abusive, passive-aggressive phrases you must never say to your partner to ruin the argument.
If you happen to be in a relationship that has not turned violent, you must learn to let the other person have a point.
You must allow them to win now and then because it will save you from being too harsh in your tone of voice.
Avoid the use of words like ‘bastard’ or ‘fucking’.
When you throw in these words, you sound like a bully, and you will no longer seem like a mature individual, but a petty and pathetic individual.
You must also never get overly angry at your partner, even if they completely flip the table on you.
Listen to your partner, and make allowances for their behavior.
Yes, you may be upset that they lied to you, but understand that your anger stems from how they lied, and not from your anger towards them.
Do not become a victim of your anger
Try to stay calm, and simply get to the core of the problem. If they lied, let them apologize.
Do not demand an apology. If you ask for an apology, you will be seen as a weak person.
Stay calm, and you will be seen as a strong and calm person.
Don’t ever call your partner a ‘liar’ or a ‘cheat’, especially if you didn’t know about it. If you did, do apologize for this.
Use phrases like ‘I do not condone cheating’ or ‘Please be honest to me, if your partner is being dishonest.
Treat every situation as an opportunity to grow as a person, so that you can not only be mature, but also successful in the relationship.
Here are 3 common things which cause a lot of problems in relationships:
Arguments are something we don’t like to hear.
We would rather not be in arguments, but we are human and have to live in this world and these situations will occur.
All relationships have arguments that arise from misunderstandings and miscommunication.
In your relationship, it’s very common to get confused about the roles of each partner in your relationship and the type of person they are.
When this happens, you are bound to fight and get into arguments.
When you don’t know the truth about each other and what the other person is going through, you tend to take your anger out on them.
2. Lack of understanding
Relationships are not black and white. It is difficult for you to see the grey area and this is why misunderstandings occur.
Your mind has an interesting way of interpreting information and it is easy for you to only think about the answers you want.
When you don’t understand what is going on in the other person’s mind, this doesn’t help with understanding the relationship either.
3. Lack of consistency
No matter how old you are, you should be guided by certain principles.
In a relationship, each person needs to be consistent with their actions.
They should understand each other’s moods and be able to predict them.
When two people are all over the place in their moods, then you will never get anywhere.
It will be very difficult for you to determine what the other person will do and how they will react to certain situations.
How to stop problems in relationships
Stop fighting! Do not attack your partner if you feel you are wrong.
Try not to blame each other. The most important thing is to understand what your partner wants.
If you are the one who needs to change, then you need to first accept your faults and shortcomings.
Make an effort to understand what your partner is thinking.
This will help you understand what your partner is going through and the reason why they are acting the way they are.
If you cannot be fair with your partner, then you need to understand the problems and try to find a solution.
If you fail to make a move, then they may realize they can’t stay with you.
When you stop fighting, understand the other person and try to look at their perspective, it will help you move on in the relationship and come up with a solution.
If you are getting confused by your relationship problems, then you might need a little help.
If you are not sure of what you should do about your relationship issues, you can get in touch with the experts at the relationships website and ask for some advice.