I don’t know about you, but my life has been broken up into two pieces.
The first part is when I was in high school and moved to London.
The second part was when I returned from London to Poughkeepsie, NY, after college.
Both times I have met lovely ladies who broke up my carefully planned social schedules.
What’s that? You don’t have the time to do all the work?
That’s too bad. Now, what I do have are a few things that I know I can do.
How to apologize to a girl over text
OK, let’s get down to business.
This article will teach you what to say to a girl over text to show her that you care and that you want to apologize.
So, do you think you can write a reasonable apology text? If not, don’t worry!
There are tons of ways to write a text that shows how you feel.
Here’s the way I do it:
I’d like to make it up to you for being lame. If I was a normal person, I’d go to this:
I was a sad boy for a long time and then suddenly I moved to London.
Sorry I was so lame and that you had to listen to my sad stuff.
Now, I’m over it. I want to be with you. This is my first text.
I don’t know if you’ll read it, but it’s in the cards.
Instead of a formal apology
There are other ways to write an apology text that are not as formal as a phone call. Here’s one:
I’m sorry I was such a jerk. I didn’t realize how lame you thought I was.
I wish I could make it up to you and hang out with you. I want to see you.
I don’t understand why you are always single. Are you really that crazy about me?
Now, how to show she cares
Now that you’ve written a text, you want to show her that you care.l
This is where you take all the “so what did you do” texts and turn them into a kind of letter.
Remember that an apology text needs to be sincere and heartfelt.
Here are some phrases to use to show you care:
- I’d like to help you if I can.
- I’m thinking about you and how you are.
- I’m trying to see what I can do to make this right.
What else?
The last thing you need to do is make sure that she does want to meet you.
If she doesn’t respond, that’s OK!
Make sure to follow up with one more text letting her know that you are interested in meeting her. Make it like this:
Hey, I was curious. You weren’t available for a date when I tried to see you. Are you available?
The worst thing you can do is wait all day for a girl to call or text. She may be on a date or with her family.
It’s best to just give up and get a new girl.
How to play the game
Of course, you want to actually meet up with a girl. Here are some things to consider if you decide to do so:
Tip 1
Try to find a date for a time when she has free time. Even if she says she wants to meet “later,” put yourself on a clock.
If you show up for a date at 2 p.m. and she can’t make it until 5:30 p.m. and you want to have enough time to buy her a coffee, she’ll be glad to meet up with you.
She doesn’t want to waste a lot of her time with someone who isn’t willing to be more flexible.
Tip 2
Be creative about where you meet. For example, if you’re texting on Bumble, try setting up a Bumble date at a place like this:
The Whit, a wine bar in NYC’s Flatiron neighborhood. Or, if she is from another city, try a really cool place in her city.
Tip 3
Figure out how to have a good conversation.
The big thing that annoys girls about online dating is that guys never ask her how she’s doing or what she does for a living.
You can do this without her ever knowing! Just make small talk:
Tell her you got her last text and have some questions about it.
Then ask her what she’s up to, where she lives, how long she’s been in the city, where she’s gone to school, what she likes to do for fun, etc.
Tell her you got her last text and have some questions about it.
Then ask her what she’s up to, where she lives, how long she’s been in the city, where she’s gone to school, what she likes to do for fun, etc.
Ask if she’s dating. Yes, this sounds weird, but ask if she is dating someone. If she says no, ask what her next date looks like. Ask her who she likes and who she doesn’t like.
Yes, this sounds weird, but ask if she is dating someone. If she says no, ask what her next date looks like.
Ask her who she likes and who she doesn’t like. Talk about your relationships. T
his is another big no-no, but ask her how she’s doing in her last relationship and if things are going well now.
Ask her if she has any good relationship advice for you.
