Confidence comes from embracing your body and expressing your emotions freely.

It is easier to experience confidence and maintain it when you connect with the physical body. In the different types of confidence, there are two types of body connection; emotional and physical.

Some people may argue that the physical body connection is nowhere close to an emotional one. To this, I say that we cannot use the physical body to experience emotions and joys unless we connect emotionally with it as well.

Some people may be a bit sensitive to being touched

Love above all. My son and I. A picture taken in my mother’s house in Kinshasa

Others may not want people to see their sweat or nervous breakdown. However, being able to become emotionally close with the body is as important as being physically close with it.

This will enhance your ability to be confident and comfortable in your own skin.

The first step in doing this is being conscious of how you respond to people or situations.

This is one of the best ways to know yourself better. Take the time to examine how you react to people in certain situations.

This way, you will know what could trigger you to get anxious or stressed. You will know which situations may make you cry, be emotional and how you react in such situations.

If you need help in discovering more about your emotional and physical connection with the body, you can take the time to do this.

Let the world see you, let the world know who you are and what you care about. Embrace your body and open up to new possibilities.

Be authentic with the way you feel

When you are uncomfortable in your own skin, you may feel guilty.

You may fear that people will not like the person they see. You may begin to believe you are not good enough or maybe you are made fun of.

You may develop doubts in yourself and fear others may treat you like less. You may even stop going outside.

Let this feeling go. If you are like me, sometimes the thoughts in our minds do not allow us to be who we truly are.

Think about the possibility that you are good enough and can be loved for who you are. The best way to do this is by going outside and exploring yourself.

The point is, if you feel a little uncomfortable, there is nothing wrong with it. But when you do not get the needed confidence boost, the fears stop you from going outside.

The key here is to become comfortable in your own skin. Just go outside and let the world see your raw emotions and fears.

Don’t neglect social settings

It is very important to socialize. It may not be your favorite thing to do, but it is important.

You may prefer to stay at home, but people need socializing to thrive in life. Socializing can boost your self-esteem and confidence.

The important thing here is to set a schedule and stick to it. If you feel like you have a lot to talk about, go out and talk to people.

Some people do not have a wide circle of friends and family. Some people prefer to stay at home all the time and sometimes go to social activities.

This is why it is so important to get out in the world and socialize.

Do not get discouraged if you do not meet a lot of people. There are other people you may be interested in.

If you try hard, you may get lucky. If you do not, at least you tried and did not let your fear or worries stop you. You are not less than anyone else.

Do not worry about the other people at the gathering. You are not there to compete. You are there to make yourself feel better about yourself.

All you want is to be yourself and meet new people. You are not going to compete against them.

You are there to find a friend or a lover or a friend or lover who can make you feel better.

Embrace the mistakes you make

You will make mistakes all the time. Maybe you will make some people angry or you may be asked to leave a party.

What do you do in this case? Most people would be happy to be asked to leave a party. The way we react to these situations is the key to our self-esteem.

The first step is to simply accept that you made a mistake and this does not mean you are a bad person. It does not mean you can’t recover from the mistake.

In fact, there are quite a several people who fail in many different fields and this does not mean they do not deserve to live.

Some people fail in their careers, but then they can be happy. Accept that you have made a mistake, and then you can start making the right choices and get back on track.

Once you have accepted the fact that you made a mistake, take some time to think about why you made that mistake.

Once you do that, you will understand that most likely the mistake was not your fault. Your reaction is how you bounce back from this mistake.